Why do people think im a lesbian

Hi Lilly,

I (I am 22 years old) have been through this situation, not exactly but very similar. I tried to feel more feminine or be more loving and open and it just felt wrong to me. (I am more of a logical, quiet, down to soil, tom boy type girl.) I don&#;t like talking about furniture/decor, I don&#;t like talking about cooking, I don&#;t like jewelry. I like talking about spirituality, makeup, horses, love, romance, friendship etc. I am a immersive person I can care less about what most women around me talk about (no offense to any of them I love them.) Which if you talk about that stuff great! I was just trying to point out something that in the past has made me feel less feminine or lesbian. I noticed that I tried to start changing myself because I am a straight chick and wanted to be viewed as that. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being lesbian, the questioning angered me because it started making me interrogate &#;Are my interest different from straight women?&#; &#;Should I modify the way I talk, verb, present myself?&#; &#;Am I feminine enough for the man I want?&#; &#;Am

by Fred Penzel, PhD

This article was initially published in the Winter edition of the OCD Newsletter. 

OCD, as we know, is largely about experiencing severe and unrelenting doubt. It can cause you to doubt even the most basic things about yourself – even your sexual orientation. A study published in the Journal of Sex Research found that among a group of college students, 84% reported the occurrence of sexual intrusive thoughts (Byers, et al. ). In instruct to have doubts about one’s sexual identity, a sufferer ask for not ever have had a homo- or heterosexual experience, or any type of sexual experience at all. I have observed this symptom in young children, adolescents, and adults as well. Interestingly Swedo, et al., , verb that approximately 4% of children with OCD experience obsessions concerned with forbidden aggressive or perverse sexual thoughts.

Although doubts about one’s own sexual identity might sound pretty straightforward as a symptom, there are actually a number of variations. The most obvious form is where a sufferer experiences the thought that they mig

I (male) have a crush on a lesbian and i don't know what to do with it

Unread postby Sam »

Hi, I'm Sam, still 14, haven't posted here in a while.


A few months ago I met a girl. After a few weeks I realised I had a crush on her. That very same day it came up in conversation that she's gay. This would've been fine, but then I was misinformed (unintentionally) that she was actually bi, which got my hopes up, so over the next few months I did my best to get her to like me and stuff, but I could tell she wasn't really interested, and recently I found out she was gay, not bi, the whole time. Because of this, I'd gradually convinced over the course of those few months that I had lost interest and now only liked her platonically. At least, that's my theory, that I've been lying to myself, because I realised today that I still very much have feelings for her, and it's pulling me apart from the inside. I really appreciate spending time with her, it releases the happy chemicals and all that stuff, but I simultaneously know that she's gay so my chances of progressing further than the

Ask Polly: Why Do People Always Think I'm Gay?

Appearing here Wednesdays, Turning The Screw provides existential crisis counseling for the faint of heart. “Does your soul ever feel, you know, not so fresh?”

Dear Polly,

I finally garnered the courage to note to you about my particular problem, and I hope you can shed some of your wisdom on the situation.

Ever since the 6th grade, people own been asking me if I’m gay. Back then, the other kids thought any person who was any bit different from them was gay, and attached a bad meaning to the word. I’ll be the first to say that I’ve never been the most “masculine” individual. I love to read and write, and a lot of what I read is somewhat romantic. My iPod is packed of Ellie Goulding, Florence + The Machine and Norah Jones, but utterly lacking in Korn, Metallica or Aerosmith. I adore to cook, and have been singing in school choruses since 4th grade. I’ve never liked violent video games or talking about sex. I can courteous of see where they got their opinions of me, but it made me enormously self-conscious. When I got to