Grindr for gay people
Rise of the sides: how Grindr finally recognized gay men who aren’t tops or bottoms
Every month, nearly 11 million gay men around the world go on the Grindr app to gaze for sex with other men. Once there, they can scroll through an endless stream of guys, from handsome to homely, bear to twink. Yet when it comes to choosing positions for sex – a crucial criterion for most gay men – the possibilities have drawn-out been simply top and bottom. The only other choice free toggles between those roles: verse (for versatile).
“Not fitting those roles has made it really tough to find someone,” said Jeremiah Hein, 38, of Long Beach, California. “There’s no category to choose from.”
“Whenever I’d look at those choices I’d think, ‘I’m none of those things,’” said Shai Davidi, 51, of Tel Aviv, Israel. “I felt there must be something wrong with me.”
Last month, however, that finally changed. In mid-May, Grindr added a position called side, a designation that upends the binary that has historically dominated gay male culture. Sides are men who find fulfillment in every kind of sexual act ex
I’ve been gay and off-and-on single for too many years to count, so of course I’ve used every possible gay app under the sun. To facilitate you avoid some of the many dating mistakes I’ve made, here’s an honest list of all the various gay dating & hookup apps that I’ve used – my personal experience and reviews of the adj (and worst) gay apps.
Everyone has an opinion on the gay apps. They’ve become so ubiquitous and ingrained in our famous culture, they’re impossible to resist. I remember the first period I downloaded Grindr—shortly after it was released. Once The Fresh York Times writers discovered it, the app world seemed to explode with location-based dating apps.
Gay dating wasn’t easy for a long time. I was prosperous enough to grow up & come out during the iPhone generation when thousands of fresh types of apps seemed to be released every day. And the gays were instrumental to that digital boom.
The gay apps have fundamentally changed dating—for E V E R Y O N E, the gays, the straights. It changed LGBTQ nightli
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Grindr is the world’s #1 free dating app serving the LGBTQ community. If you’re gay, bi, trans, queer, or even just curious, Grindr is the foremost and easiest way to encounter new people for friendships, hookups, dates, and whatever else you’re looking for.
On a trip? Grindr is an indispensable tool for LGBTQ travelers—log in to meet locals and get recommendations for bars, restaurants, events, and more. With Grindr in your pocket, you’ll always be connected to other LGBTQ people around you and have your finger on the pulse of what’s happening.
Ready to get started? Creating your profile is easy, and you can share as much or little about yourself as you like. Within minutes you’ll be ready to connect, chat, and meet up with people near you.
Grindr is faster and better than ever:
• See people nearby based on your location
• Chat and share private photos
• Add tags to share your interests
• Search tags to detect others based on their interests
• Create private albums to divide (and unshare) multiple photos at once
• Filter your search to find what you want
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I Put “No Republicans” in My Grindr Profile. Men Started to Lose Their Minds.
We exchanged smartphone numbers and took the conversation to text. Evan—name changed to protect his identity—was handsome, statuesque , and good at banter. I looked forward to grabbing a drink with him before he ruined things.
“I have to acknowledge something that’s not always popular,” he said. “I’m pretty conservative for a gay guy.”
“ ‘Make America Great Again’ conservative?” I asked. He confirmed he was planning to vote for Trump again. (For context, this was around )
During this time, I was talking with a string of men on the apps who seemed promising at first but ended up Trumpy. As I’ve explained to countless men since then, it’s a values thing: In my eyes, the Republican Party considers gay people second-class citizens. I’m not interested in dating men who place their bank accounts, racism, or self-hatred over their own autonomy. Evan was the final straw—and the catalyst for putting “No Republicans, please” in my Grindr profile.
Grindr bills itself as “the world’s largest social networkingapp for LGBTQ people