Text gay guys online

Every week as an LGBTQ therapist, without fail, I listento stories of hurt feelings and painful miscommunication stemming from the use of technology. It’s obvious that many friends and boyfriends tend to share personal and difficult feelings through text and email.

Why?

Because it is easier. It is less scary to mention a vulnerable truth when typing alone on your screen, compared to looking into someone’s tackle and seeing his reaction. We worry less about being judged, and we avoid his bruise or uncomfortable eyes.

We feel safest expressing ourselves when we are alone, where no one can see us.

When he does respond, we know he’ll probably respond through technology. We’ll be alone as we read and he won’t see how vulnerable we look. What a relief that we can hide once more.

Being a Man

Men aren’t raised to express their tender emotions. Minuscule girls have more permission to cry and say, “You wound my feelings.” If little boys tried to process their feelings, they might be shunned from the playground for years. Really, it makes no sense.

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