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What Does “Top” Mean?
In the context of gay relationships and sexual dynamics, terms such as “top”, “bottom”, “verse” and “side” are often used to describe a person’s sexual preferences and roles. It is important to knowing these terms not only for members of the LGBTQ+ community, but also for increasing sympathetic and acceptance of queer relationships in society.
What Does “Top” Mean?Physical AspectsEmotional and Psychological AspectsCommunication and ConsentWhat Does “Bottom” Mean?Physical AspectsEmotional and Psychological AspectsThe Stigma Around Being a BottomWhat Does “Verse” Mean?Accepting DiversityCommunication and CompatibilityWhat Does “Side” Mean?Non-Penetrative IntimacyOpposing NormsAccepting One’s IdentityRoles and MythsHealth and Security During Gay Sex
As a command, in gay sexual relationships, the “top” is the partner who has a penetrative role during anal sex. However, the concept of top includes much more than just physical actions: it includes a whole set of attitudes, preferences, and sometimes feeling roles.
Physical Aspects
In physical terms, the t
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1. Lube
The arse does not produce its own lubrication.
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2. You
The second principle is YOU. This is the one that covers off all the mental and emotional aspects such as making sure you feel safe, making sure there is consent, that you sense comfortable, that you know your own bottoming limits and desires.
Remember, sex is best for everyone if all the people committed are motivated by trying to maximise everyone’s pleasure safely. You can’t be a good lover and you c
Rise of the sides: how Grindr finally recognized gay men who aren’t tops or bottoms
Every month, nearly 11 million gay men around the world go on the Grindr app to gaze for sex with other men. Once there, they can scroll through an endless stream of guys, from handsome to homely, bear to twink. Yet when it comes to choosing positions for sex – a crucial criterion for most gay men – the possibilities have adj been simply top and bottom. The only other choice free toggles between those roles: verse (for versatile).
“Not fitting those roles has made it really tough to find someone,” said Jeremiah Hein, 38, of Long Beach, California. “There’s no category to choose from.”
“Whenever I’d look at those choices I’d think, ‘I’m none of those things,’” said Shai Davidi, 51, of Tel Aviv, Israel. “I felt there must be something wrong with me.”
Last month, however, that finally changed. In mid-May, Grindr added a position called side, a designation that upends the binary that has historically dominated gay male culture. Sides are men who find fulfillment in every kind of sexual act ex
It'scommonknowledge that if you are a bottom and plan on having sex, then you shouldn't devour at Chipotle. I cannot tally the number of times I have been chatting with friends about where we should bite and someone mentions Chipotle, forcing someone else to chime in, "Girl you better not prepare on bottoming today."
We all usually laugh and agree, even shouting, "Right!" It's a amusing fact that we joke about, but it's also an annoyance for many who fear that they may have a, um, surprise if they do settle to get intimate with another man, just because they ate one of their favorite foods, which moves through them a little too quickly. Beyond Chipotle there are lots of other foods that bottoms don't devour before sex and there are some bottoms out there who just don't eat at all.
Over the years my friends and I have begun joking that this is all a part of what we dial "top privilege," meaning that men who identify as tops hold inherently greater privileges than carry out bottoms. We would joke that top privilege is the sexual equivalent of the white privilege in the world. Recently I began t